Just Have to say thank you Lord…
Just Have to say thank you Lord…
Just Have to say thank you Lord…
On February 26, 2012 a 17 year old African American young man was shot and killed in his private gated Florida neighborhood. I’m sure by now you’ve heard the story. The young man, Trayvon, was walking to the store in his neighborhood when 28 year old George Zimmerman presumed young Trayvon to be a mysterious character and tried to stop him from walking. Zimmerman armed with a 9 millimeter weapon approached young Trayvon and after a brief altercation Zimmerman shot and killed Trayvon Martin before any police figure or authority arrived on the scene. Trayvon was armed with a pack of Skittles and an ice tea and with his immense size (Trayvon was 140 lbs) he scared Zimmerman (who was 240+ lbs) into action. I know what you’re thinking, “something about this story just doesn’t sound right.” I agree! What’s more egregious about the story is the fact that Zimmerman was never even arrested. Police Chief Bill Lee said Zimmerman acted in self defense. There are numerous things I could write about in regards to this situation that have caused a range of emotions from sadness, to anger, but what really has been eating away at me is that the fact that this could happen to my 6 year old nephew one day or your son or daughter if we don’t stand up against this type of tyranny immediately.
You see in 1988 when I was 8 years old my young parents moved to the suburb of Hazel Crest a suburb of Chicago. They did so for many reasons but primarily so their young children (my sister was 6) could have a safer neighborhood and access to better schools. Growing up and going to private schools my sister and I saw the ugly face of racism first hand. We experienced both blatant and subliminal examples and had the opportunity to learn that some people still see skin color far before they take the opportunity to see the person beyond. As young men, my friends and I had the opportunity to spend time with friends who, like Trayvon, lived in very nice communities. I can recount the funny looks and police encounters like they happened yesterday and it’s only by the grace of God that my friends and I did not have something like this happen to us. I’m sure if Mr. Zimmerman would have taken a second to talk to Trayvon he would have found that this All-American kid was, as his teachers called him, delightfully pleasant. Mr. Zimmerman would have learned that Trayvon was a good student, who hailed form a good family, who had never been in trouble and was a neighbor in the same Sanford Florida community. Sadly Mr. Zimmerman didn’t do that. He saw a boy with brown skin in a hooded sweartshirt and jeans and instantly thought he was common street thug. He decided that he was “fed up” with the crime in his community and he wanted to “take things into his own hands”, however what Mr. Zimmerman did was he mistakenly prejudged a boy and used excessive force to take an innocent young life based on the color of his skin and clothes on his back.
Good people I am tired of our youth being subject to senseless violence. I urge you all to sign the color of change petition if you can’t do anything else. It’s so upsetting to think about the promise taken away with the death of Trayvon Martin. Please consider that this could be a member of your family. Let’s yell for justice! If you don’t mentor please start today. Take time with young people in your family to help them understand their worth. I’m always trying to think of a solution however I don’t know what could have been done to change or stop this man from killing Trayvon Martin. Maybe someone will read this and think to look beyond color and see that Trayvon Martin was not just a black child he was our child (our being America’s). We have to begin to fight for our children. They are as under attack as the black family unit is. Let’s protect them or die trying. Edmund Burke once said, “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.” If we stand together we can stop senseless acts of violence. This is no better or worse than the gang violence that happens daily in countless communities throughout Chicago. This young man did not have to die. What can we do? If nothing else, we can vote and be sure to be engaged in our local communities to understand who we are putting in positions of leadership. That way when things like this happen they aren’t simply swept under the rug or ignored. It’s time to fight back.
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Many of us have great resolutions for 2012. Some people plan to loose weight, others plan to get new jobs, or save money while some make plans to leave the baggage of 2011 in the past. Well I’m here to provide 10 reasons why it’s good to get rid of those silly people on Facebook and other social media outlets. I call it “De-Ratchefication.”
Urban Dictionary has defined the term ‘ratchet’. As an adjective, it describes a person or activity that is out of hand, out of control, or generally whack in some way. So to de-ratchefy means to remove the person or activity that is out of control or whack in some way from your social media outlets. Below you will find 10 Ways to De-Ratchefy your life.
[box type="info"] 10. Delete the “Freaky-Jason stalker”. [/box] You know who this person is. It’s the individual who likes everything you say on the site. You know that individual, you could say, you ate a bad grilled cheese and you need some Tums and the individual will still like the post.
[box type="info"] 9. Un-friend the Spammer Model.[/box] You know the girl who adds you with the name like, Honey, Cherry, or some other random stripper name that posts pictures of Jordan heels on your page. (Side-Note you may want to un-friend people with stripper names just because)
[box type="info"] 8. Remove the person that always posts depressed statuses. [/box] You truly never realize the effect that people’s foolishness can have on your day and psyche when you read their posts. The easiest way to get rid of their silliness is to click that un-friend box. Sad stuff like, I got a bunion, I lost my side hustle as karaoke rapper, or has any body odor issue.
[box type="info"] 7. Remove the “not-really-your-friends friends. [/box] I have started a policy under the “Martin” act. You remember his high school reunion (Pretty Ricky what they called him…lol) episode? At the end of that episode Martin said something key. He said, “You people don’t like me and I don’t like you, you didn’t like me then and I don’t like you now.” So under that act I think it’s time to remove all those people who really aren’t your friends and really don’t like you. I mean let’s be real… If you didn’t like me in 1998 Facebook hasn’t changed that. The only reason those people add you is because they either A. want to be nosy or B. want to hate on what you are doing now. Remove Remove Remove!
[box type="info"] 6. Delete the “Always-Commenting-Mess-Folk” [/box] Personally I think a Facebook page is like someone’s electronic home. I think it’s rude to come post mess on someone’s page. What is mess you may ask? Inappropriate comments. Flirtatious comments when you know that person is in a relationship or married. Intentionally nasty messages trying to cause trouble. Moves cursor to “un-friend.”
[box type="info"] 5. The Twitter Avi Dumbness[/box]If you see someone’s crusty draws, breasts, or any other body part…. Unfriend… nuff-said!
[box type="info"] 4. Enough with the Never-ending relationship drama. [/box]I really think it’s time to remove the people who post their relationship drama on Facebook everyday. I mean come on son’ really! Make a decision, be together or not. If it’s complicated, uncomplicate your life and be single. Thank You.
[box type="info"] 3. Say it with ya chest… Lil… (Kevin Hart Voice) [/box]If you don’t know me; why are you messaging me about personal stuff? Stop using business as an excuse to hit on people. I think it’s highly unprofessional. If you are trying to date them come at them correctly and if not… Keep it professional.
[box type="info"] 2. The Half-Nakeds. [/box] Delete, Remove, Nuclear Bomb those people that post half naked pictures with the muffins tops popping out. I mean if you are friends with legit models then that’s fine. However if you are taking your “head-shots” or “portfolio” pictures in someone’s basement you are not a model, your pics aren’t legit, and “we don’t believe you, you need more people (Jay-Z Voice).” Come on son’.
[box type="info"] 1. The Stupidity Posters. [/box]It’s time folks… It’s time to revolt against those whose every post has to do with Real Housewives of Atlanta, Basketball Wives, The Game, Drake, Nikki Manaj, and Love and Hip hop but they never ever talk about politics, the economy, career development, crayons, skittles, comcast, sports, or vegetable trays… you know ANYTHING OTHER THAN RATCHETNESS. I mean like if you bask in ratchetness then you might be a tool!
Trust me if you do this you will find a new zen like peace of mind and your 2012 will be off to stellar start!
Presented By: JB
Origianlly Posted on Mashable
Facebook and romantic relationships make for a potent — and potentially volatile — combination.
While the network does offer opportunities for meaningful social interactions and self-esteem boosts, it also opens a Pandora’s box of options for spying, stalking and other insecurity- and jealousy-driven actions between lovers.
And all those public relationship tidbits of data, from new relationship announcements to breakups to digital PDA, can have an impact on how others, including your partner, see you.
How do you handle Facebook when it comes to interpersonal relationships, especially those of a romantic variety?
I’ve been working in corporate America for almost 14 years (I was hired by International Truck and Engine in 1998) and over the course of time working in the corporate arena I have learned many concepts that cross the professional lines and work inside of the personal as well. Wether it’s how to effectively communicate, how to properly ask questions, or actively listen these skills have transcended corporate into how I interact with people daily. Recently I began to think about dating relationships and how closes it relates to Tuckman’s Stages of Group Development model. Most people have heard of the four stages Forming, Storming, Norming, and Performing. I think these stages play into dating relationships as well. Let’s examine each stage and see how it translates into dating relationships. I’ve adapted these definitions from Wikipedia and training material I’ve taught from over the years to fit inside the dating model.
In the first stages of team building, the forming of the team takes place. The individual’s behavior is driven by a desire to be accepted by the other, and avoid controversy or conflict. Serious issues and feelings are avoided, and people focus on being busy with routines, who does what, when to meet (date), etc. But individuals are also gathering information and impressions – about each other. This is a comfortable stage to be in, but the avoidance of conflict and threat means that not much actually gets done.
The couple meets and learns about the opportunities and challenges. The couple still behaves very much so quite independently. They may be motivated but are usually relatively uninformed of the issues inside the relationship. Both parties are usually on their best behavior but very focused on themselves.
The forming stage of any relationship is important because, in this stage, the couple get to know one another, exchange some personal information, and make new friends. This is also a good opportunity to see how each person works as an individual and how they respond to pressure.
You know this stage. This is the happy stage. The stage where things are good the sky is blue and every love song on the radio seems to remind you of that other person!
Example Couple: Pick any of your friends who’s recently started to date someone promising!
Every relationship will next enter the storming stage in which different ideas compete for consideration. The couple addresses issues such as what they each really want in the relationship, how they will function independently and together and what leadership model they will accept. This is vital and if it’s avoided it will lead to conflict as you progress in your relationship. People tend to open up to each other and confront each other’s ideas and perspectives. In some cases storming can be resolved quickly. In others, the couple never leaves this stage. You have seen these couples that argue all the time! You know… The dysfunctional couple.. The couple friends hate to invite to things.. The couple that makes you ask yourself; “why are they even together?” The growth of the individuals in the relationship and ability to communicate usually determines whether the couple will ever move out of this stage. Some people only focus on minutiae to evade real issues.
The storming stage is necessary to the growth of the couple. It can be contentious, unpleasant and even painful to those who are averse to conflict. Tolerance of each person and their differences should be emphasized. Without tolerance and patience the couple will fail. This phase can become destructive to the couple if allowed to get out of control.
This stage is the “getting down to business” stage. It is the stage where you really get to know the other person and it’s very vital
Example Couple: Marcus and Tasha in For Better or For Worse… Bad Show Great Example
The couple manages to have one goal and come to a mutual plan for the relationship. One may have to give up their own ideas and agree with other in order to make the relationship grow. In this stage the couple takes the responsibility and have the ambition to work for the success of the relationship.
I don’t think many get to this stage. I think many relationships never go through an adequate storming phase and therefore stay stuck moving between forming and storming. Once the storming phase gets difficult the couple abandons the path and if they choose to continue to date they try and go back to the happy-happy, joy-joy (Pause… my twitter people get this) phase of development.
Example Couple : Dwayne Wane and Whitley in Different World
It is possible for some couples to reach the performing stage. These high-performing relationships are able to function as a unit as they find ways work together and provide happiness smoothly and effectively without inappropriate conflict or the need for external input (the friends comments). By this time, they are motivated and knowledgeable of each other and communicate effectively. Dissent is expected and allowed as long as it is channeled through means acceptable to the communication platform. Talk it out or have a breakdance battle to settle your differences.
All in all I think this is a very applicable business concept that works in real life… What do you think?
Example Couple : Heathcliff and Claire Huxtable
Am I the only one that finds it absolutely insane that Chicago public libraries won’t be open on Mondays any longer? I mean this isn’t Joplin, Missouri (Sorry to those of you who live in Joplin) this is Chicago a world class city. The city that was and is home to Derrick Rose, Hillary Clinton, and President Barack Obama. The same city that can spend almost 10 million dollars (Yes I know much of it was donated) on a giant bean in a park. Now I know studies show a decline in the use of libraries primarily due to the ease and accessibility of information via computer but if you visit libraries in the inner city you will still see packed desks and chairs full of people that are there to use the internet and computers most local libraries provide. Quite often these individuals in these communities only have internet access by way of the library. In an age where job, college, and just about every other application exists online eliminating a day of internet access adds another challenge in the process in areas where the process to get jobs and college admission is challenged enough. It just seems like we could have found some kind of compromise. I guess the city of big shoulders is suffering from a rotator cuff injury!
NEW YORK (CNNMoney) — It’s 2012, the year that many believe will mark the end of the world. But if the four horsemen of the Apocalypse don’t show up, you might want to make some smart investments for the long haul with a different kind of four horsemen.
In the 1990s, Intel (INTC, Fortune 500), Microsoft (MSFT, Fortune 500), Dell (DELL, Fortune 500) and Cisco (CSCO, Fortune 500) were the so-called “four horsemen of tech” — the high-profile public technology companies that were sure to return strong growth to investors year after year. For nearly two decades, all four held keys to technology’s growth engine: the personal computer. Intel made the processors, Microsoft made the software, Dell made the PCs and Cisco networked them together.
So who should replace the old guard? We surveyed 30 technology experts, ranging from stock analysts to tech consultants to fund managers, asking them to pick four public companies (sorry, Facebook). We also polled thousands of our readers.
The results are clear: Apple (AAPL, Fortune 500), Google (GOOG,Fortune 500), Amazon (AMZN, Fortune 500) and IBM (IBM,Fortune 500) are the new four horsemen of tech. Unsurprisingly, all four companies are leaders in mobility or cloud computing.
Apple: The voting wasn’t really that close. Apple was the clear leader, appearing on 84% of experts’ ballots. It’s no surprise: Apple is the most valuable technology company on the stock market, yet it is also one of the fastest-growing.
“I think tablet computing is going to be one of the next ‘big things’ in tech, and Apple has a near monopoly on this market,” said Zeus Kerravala, an independent tech analyst at ZK Research.
Apple is also embracing the other key technology trend with its high-profileiCloud.
Google: Of the experts we polled, 70% placed it in their top-four picks.
“Search is still the prevailing storm for monetization on the Web, and that will continue for the foreseeable future,” said Michael Grossi, director at Altman Vilandrie & Co.
Of course, Google has grown way beyond being “just” a search company. Mobile and display advertising are each generating more than $1 billion a year for the company.
The Android operating system powers more smartphones than any other OS. And if the company’s bid for Motorola Mobility (MMI) goes through, it will give Google control of both the hardware and softwarefor its devices.
Amazon: Appearing on 57% of experts’ ballots, Amazon is by far the lowest-valued company on the list. Its market cap is $80 billion. Google, the next-smallest, is valued at $170 billion.
But Amazon’s sales are projected to grow faster than any of its other horsemen companions.
“Amazon’s core market is still in its infancy, with just 5% of commerce taking place online,” noted Steve Lidberg, director of research at Pacific Crest Securities. “The company is also poised to be the biggest disruptor in technology, with a business model that is supported by thin margins, providing the flexibility to make investment decisions that others may avoid.”
The company sells Kindle e-book readers and tablets for no or little profitin order to support its retail and media businesses. But Amazon’s biggest bet is happening in the cloud, with its Web services and hosting business.
“Today they are a retail outlet, with a foot in technology,” said Vanessa Alvarez, analyst at Forrester Research. “Tomorrow, they’ll be a technology company, running a retail business.”
IBM: With 40% of experts’ votes, IBM edged out Microsoft (37%) to become the fourth horseman.
Its SmartCloud technology is helping IBM deliver high-powered analyticsto small businesses and governments, optimizing everything from road construction to call centers.
“The importance of analytics of all kinds and the depth of their portfolio in these areas is unrivalled,” said Susan Feldman, analyst at IDC. “These technologies are vital to round out the understanding of what’s going on and why.”
The “big data” revolution that IBM is leading has led to multiple successful initiatives, including Smarter Planet and Watson, the Jeopardy! playing computer. That’s one reason why the 100-year old company’s stock rose by 25% last year.
No safe bets: In the tech market, icons can fall hard and fast. Shares of three of the four old horsemen are all down over the past 10 years, while Cisco is down substantially from where it was five years ago.
Meanwhile, the new horsemen have been a great 21st century investment. Apple’s stock is up 3,650% over the past decade, and Amazon’s is up 1,160%. Google has grown 550% since it went public in 2004. Even big, bad IBM is up 90% over the past 10 years.
That led one analyst to choose “no one” for his four horsemen picks.
“There are no safe investments in technology right now,” said Ed Zabitzsky, analyst at ACI Research. “I have never seen this much change at one time. Change brings market disruption and lower prices, and often it brings commoditization.”
When Facebook gets involved, relationships can quickly fall apart – as Hosni Mubarak and Muammar Gaddafi have discovered. But dictatorships are not the only ties being dissolved by social networkingsites: now Facebook is increasingly being blamed for undermining American marriages.
Even though the rate of divorce in the US has remained largely stable in recent years, American divorce lawyers and academics have joined Middle East analysts in picking out Facebook as a leading cause of relationship trouble, with American lawyers now demanding to see their clients’ Facebook pages as a matter of course before the start of proceedings.
“We’re coming across it more and more. One spouse connects online with someone they knew from school. The person is emotionally available and they start communicating through Facebook,” said Dr Steven Kimmons, a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor atLoyola University Medical Centre near Chicago.
Yet while the US media has been quick to trumpet any evidence of Facebook as the country’s leading marriage-wrecker, the truth is “It’s complicated,” as the site’s relationship status would have it.
A 2010 survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) found that four out of five lawyers reported an increasing number of divorce cases citing evidence derived from social networking sites in the past five years, with Facebook being the market leader.
Two-thirds of the lawyers surveyed said that Facebook was the “primary source” of evidence in divorce proceedings, while MySpace with 15% and Twitter with 5% lagged far behind.
Those statistics included not just evidence of infidelity but other legal battles, such as child custody cases in which parents deny using illicit drugs but boast of smoking marijuana on their Facebook pages.
Photographs harvested from social networking sites – including those posted by friends or colleagues on their own pages – are a particularly rich source of damning evidence, according to divorce lawyers.
“This sort of evidence has gone from nothing to a large percentage of my cases coming in,” Linda Lea Vicken, a member of the divorce lawyers’ group from South Dakota, told the Associated Press.
Marlene Eskind Moses, president of the AAML, said the openness and sharing of social networking sites left their users’ public and private lives more exposed.
“If you publicly post any contradictions to previously made statements and promises, an estranged spouse will certainly be one of the first people to notice and make use of that evidence,” said Moses.
Statistics for January from online analysts Nielsen showed 135 million people in the US visiting Facebook during the month – nearly 70% of the country’s internet users. On average, users spent more than seven hours a month visiting the site, far longer than the less than half an hour spent on visits to Amazon or the average of two hours and 15 minutes on Google, America’s most popular web destination.
The overall rate of divorce, however, appears to be unaffected by the advent of social networking. The most recent published data – from 2009 – shows the overall divorce rate declining, slightly more slowly than the shrinking percentage of Americans who get married every year.
A spokesperson for Facebook said: “It’s ridiculous to suggest that Facebook leads to divorce. Whether you’re breaking up or just getting together, Facebook is just a way to communicate, like letters, phone calls and emails. Facebook doesn’t cause divorces, people do.”
But given its popularity, it is little wonder that negotiating “Facebook divorce” status updates has become another unhappy event for failed romances, over when to launch the site’s broken-heart icon out into the glare of the world’s news feed.
A lot of people don’t know this but the 1st person I met when I moved to Hazel Crest on August 2nd 1988 was Berkeley Baker. My parents got our bikes off the moving van first thing so my sister and I would have something to do and so while riding bikes I rode to the park around the corner and met this kid who would become one of my best friends. I really don’t have a favorite memory cause we have 1000s and I couldn’t pick anything else over standing up in your wedding but one of my favorites was playing basketball in your front yard. The legendary 2 on 2 battles with me you Horace and Kobie or driving way out somewhere to play basketball against some guys, running the gym, and driving way home. (Gas was only $1.10 a gallon then lol) You and Steph are going to be the best parents…
I think the one thing I remember most about my cousin Corita was how the time when she came outside in my neighborhood when I was a shorty to find out who were messing with her little cousins… Even though I’m only a couple years younger I will always be her little cousin… She’s always had my back and I will always have hers. She was hilarious as a kid. She would make my sister and I do things to see which one us she would “like better” for that day. Although we are cousins she’s always treated me like a brother. I love her very much…